Taking Children Seriously: Requiring Children To Do Chores Our children (we have 3) seem to want to do all the mundane chores These are, I think, the ultimate goals of having children do chores teaching them http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/requiring_children_to_do_chores
Extractions: I'm not willing to go to work everyday to earn the money needed to pay for the computers, toys, food, etc that everyone else buys if I must live in a messy house because the person who made the mess didn't feel like cleaning it up today and decided to wait until next week! Or does it? You see, there's another way of looking at all this, and that's what TCS is all about. But from the way you are analysing this problem, I guess that your main obstacle in understanding what TCS is all about will be a moral one: you believe that a parent's financial support and other services for his children morally obliges the children to provide certain services in return. But there is no justification for that belief. It is just a rationalisation of the traditional status quo between parent and child. The truth is that there is a moral asymmetry between parent and child: in the event of an intractable dispute between them, the parent chose to place the child in the situation that caused the dispute; the child did not choose to place the parent there. your problem. You chose the latter problem for yourself; you were saddled with the former by your own parents.
Extractions: By By Ruth A. Peters, Ph.D. "Today" contributor Today in "Weekend Parenting" we continue a series of excerpts from "Laying Down the Law: The 25 Laws of Parenting to Keep Your Kids on Track, Out of Trouble, and (Pretty Much) Under Control," the most recent book by "Today" show contributor Dr. Ruth Peters. Law #25: If you believe that kids just naturally grow up demonstrating good frustration tolerance, perseverance, and self-discipline, think again. All of these character traits are learned - and must be taught by their parents. Want to guarantee that your kid will develop a good work ethic and not cut and run when the going gets tough? Here's how to lead your child's development into a responsible, self-sufficient adult. Remember, perhaps not long ago, when you were anticipating your child's birth? All the good thoughts poured in - how cute he would be, the selection of not-overused-yet-not-too-weird names you were considering, and how brilliant this offspring was destined to be. Okay, the baby is born, the nursery is decorated, you've finally figured out how to work the Diaper Genie, and little by little you even rediscover what sleep is. As brand-new parents, you probably faced some child-rearing issues, such as whether the baby will be allowed to cuddle in your bed if he awakens and cries during the night, or maybe you talked over toilet training or preschool choices in your early parenting discussions. So far, so good, but did the issue of how to foster your child's work ethic happen to come up? You're probably thinking "What, are you nuts? Let's just get through this baby and toddler thing before we tackle that!"
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Teaching Your Children To Manage Money Teaching children at an early age the value of money can reap rewards for Encourage your child to earn extra money at home by doing simple chores, http://www.consumeralert.org/pubs/commonsense/childrensfinance.htm
Extractions: Consumer Column By Frances B. Smith Volume II, Number 5 Teaching children at an early age the value of money can reap rewards for them...and for you...when they become young adults. Understanding how money is used in exchange for things that are needed or wanted can form a part of a child's education from the time he or she enters grade school and through high school. But different approaches work better at different ages. Also, your family's valueshow you view allowances and children earning moneydetermine your basic approach. Here are some suggestions for helping your children understand the relationship between money that comes in and money that goes out: Grade School: Provide a weekly allowance for each child, even if you can only afford a modest amount, and give it to children at a set time each week. Discuss the kinds of purchases that should be covered by the allowance and help the child understand that the allowance can buy things he or she needs, for example, one week's allowance may buy batteries for a toy. Also, help your child realize how many weeks' allowances would be needed to purchase something more expensive. Encourage younger children to save "extra" money in a piggy bank at home so that they know the value of "saving for a rainy day."
Dr. Grohol's Psych Central - Teaching A Work Ethic from household chores, you will incur the same resentment from your children Kids (and even grown ups) tend to manage chores better when there is a http://psychcentral.com/library/id22.html
Extractions: Its a familiar scene in my office. A family comes in with two or three kids. Mom, especially if she is single, complains about overwhelming exhaustion from her job and ungrateful kids. Doing double duty with work and household tasks, she does everything her non-working Mom ever did, from volunteering at the kids schools to laundry, cooking, and cleaning, plus a demanding career. She cant figure out how it is that somehow she gets less help from her kids than she remembers offering as a kid herself. Two parent families dont fare much better. Dad says he chips in when he can but he works too and, anyway, he cant get the kids to help much either. So I ask them what the kids are expected to do to earn their keep. Usually its something pretty tame: clean their rooms on Saturdays; clear the table; feed the dog. But these minor chores become the major cause of stress in the household. All the reminding, nagging, pleading, threatening, and bribing that goes on to get them done makes the adults wonder if its all worth it. Often enough, one or the other of the parents decides its just plain easier to do the task than to engage in the battle involved in getting the kids to help. The parents resent having to do everything. The kids end up feeling so entitled that they resent being asked to even clean up after their own spills and messes. In my practice, Ive noticed that conflict about chores comes up with almost every family; the only exceptions are most of the local farm families. On the farms, the kids work and work hard. Generally these kids feed animals, muck out stalls, help with the fields, and still do their homework and participate on sports teams. Why is it that their in-town friends cant find the time or motivation to just take out the garbage?
Make Chores A Game And Kids Will Good parents, just like good classroom teachers, know how to turn chores into For example, some teachers have children pretend to be riding on a train http://www.jameswindell.com/make_chores_a_game.htm
Extractions: Good parents, just like good classroom teachers, know how to turn chores into fun tasks. For example, some teachers have children pretend to be riding on a train when they have to line up to go down the hallway. Some might even blow a train whistle which immediately reminds kids that they are to "Get on board" for the train trip to the cafeteria. Other teachers use songs to teach lessons. Some use puppets to keep young student's attention while the teacher is imparting a lesson that doesn't feel like learning to the children. Others act out stories or get very dramatic, compelling kids to become involved in the reading. One teacher I know turns her classroom into a store, and children, caught up in the excitement of "shopping," are not even aware of how much they learn by using play money and adding up their purchases. Whenever you're having difficulties getting your child to comply with a request or to complete a chore, consider how you could turn a mundane task into an exciting game.
Extractions: Related entries: Child Development Lifestyle One of the things it seems all parents struggle with is when to start assigning chores, and which chores to assign for their children. (A while back, we wrote about chores for pre-schoolers Chores are an important part of family life. Aside from taking some of the burden off of already busy parents, chores help teach responsibility, cooperation, and self-sufficiency. The sooner parents start teaching their kids these important skills, the easier it will be for them to take on greater responsibilities when they get older. Read Permalink Email this Linking Blogs ... Comments The youngest cartoonist in the neighborhood
Columns - January 11, 2001 What is the best way to teach a child about money? My girlfriend says my daughter should do chores in exchange for the cash. http://www.newsreview.com/issues/sacto/2001-01-11/joey.asp
Extractions: By Joey Garcia Got a problem? Click here for help. What is the best way to teach a child about money? I want to give my 8-year-old daughter a weekly allowance out of the $50 per month that I budget for the birthday gifts that she and my 4-year-old son give friends and family. She would then purchase such items herself. My girlfriend says my daughter should do chores in exchange for the cash. She says my approach teaches my daughter that she can get money without working. My girlfriend was upset that my daughter doesn't even feed her own pets at my house or my ex-wife's. I think 8 years old is a bit young to expect that. Your thoughts? Readers: What one thing could you change about yourself that would change the world? Send your name, phone number and a short answer by Jan. 28 (only names will be published). I'll select three to win a one-year subscription to Sustenance, the magazine of conscious spirituality. Tending Your Money Garden , said parents must also be conscious of whether they only discuss money in loud, shouting voices. He added that neither chores for cash nor providing allowance and assigning chores resulted in much help from his kids.
Extension Connection Newsletter Another important step when teaching children how to do chores is to remember to say thanks. children feel a sense of accomplishment by doing work that s http://web.extension.uiuc.edu/champaign/connections/i709_27.html
Extractions: E-mail: champaign_co@extension.uiuc.edu May/June 2005 Family Lazy Days of Summer? I still remember the excitement I experienced as a child being out of school for the summer. Fewer scheduled activities provided more fun choices. I wonderfully imagined how I would experience the "lazy days of summer". No more homework meant a sense of freedom. However, those feelings of freedom were short lived. Growing up on a farm meant my parents had lots of ideas of summer chores my brothers and I could accomplish. Undaunted by our lack of enthusiasm, my parents firmly believed chores helped all of us contribute to the well - being of our family. Everyone needed to "pitch in" and help. I learned positive skills like helping, sharing, and showing concern for others by completing my household tasks. The value of family members working together to do chores was an important childhood lesson. Researchers have found that children as young as 18 months old can begin "helping" with household chores.
Parents As The First And Foremost Teachers As a child s first teachers, you as parents are in a unique position to Let your children help you with chores. You may be surprised at the fun children http://www.foreverfamilies.net/xml/articles/parents_first_teachers.aspx?&publica
Wnbc.com - Family - How, Why, When To Give Kids Allowances A child should be doing the chores because they re a member of the household an allowance can be a good way to teach kids money management early on. http://www.wnbc.com/family/4781767/detail.html
Extractions: Contact Station: Select Recipient WebStaff Sales NewsTips Programming Community Sports Weather Consumer News Health News Investigative Unit Search Dating Automotive Travel Recipes ... Yellow Pages Email This Story Print This Story POSTED: 1:49 pm EDT July 28, 2005 UPDATED: 2:18 pm EDT July 28, 2005 10-year-old Marina Montenegro gets an allowance of $5 per week. But the lesson it's taught her may be even more valuable than the cash. "When you spend your own money you feel more responsible," said Montenegro. "Because when you spend your parents' money it's like, 'I want that, I want that, I want all these things,' but when you spend your own money it's more like, 'Well which one do I want more?'" More Information E-mail Carol Anne Riddell Carol Anne's Bio Kids and allowance. They want it, but should they get it? And, if so, on what terms? David Sparrow of Parents magazine, said a regular allowance can be a real teaching tool but should come with some grown-up guidelines. "Most parents find it's a good idea to say, 'Well you can spend half of it right now or on something you want within the next week but then the rest of it goes toward savings or to charity or some combination,'" said Sparrow.
Chetanaa (HARYANA) The tendency is to withdraw children from school and place them in menial chores. Number of children 149. Boy/Girl Ratio 1 1. Student/Teacher Ratio http://www.ashanet.org/projects/project-view.php?p=46
Extractions: Printed in PHS #6, 1994. Ten years ago my wife Laurelee and I decided to educate our children in a homeschool rather than a public school or a private school. Of special concern to us were the following facts: The social and religious environment in most schools in America has deteriorated to such a level that it is a threat to the spiritual, moral, and mental health of each child who is forced to participate in it. The level of political and secular humanist indoctrination in American public schools has risen so high that it is very difficult for any child attending public school to emerge with an understanding of historical and religious truth. Irrationalism has become the norm throughout American schools. It is therefore very difficult for children who attend those schools to learn how to think rather than to simply believe whatever propaganda is being disseminated at the moment. The academic quality of most schools has deteriorated to the point that American students are literally the world's largest group of dunces. In test after test of academic abilities, American students score last or near-last in comparison with students from the other twenty or so advanced countries.
Fostering Responsibility In Children: Chores Or Contributions? In this and my next column I will describe one approach for teaching children to be children are often told, Remember, you must do your chores! http://www.drrobertbrooks.com/writings/articles/9911.html
Extractions: In many of my workshops and in my clinical practice I have been asked questions about the most effective ways to teach children to be responsible. Frequently, these questions are posed by parents and teachers who are frustrated by children who do not follow through on what is expected. A sample of such questions includes: "How can I get my son to do his chores? He says I'm always nagging him." "How can I motivate my students to complete their assignments?" In this and my next column I will describe one approach for teaching children to be responsible, an approach that has the added benefit of fostering an attitude of caring and compassion in our children. The ideas in this column began to take shape from research I did a number of years ago when I asked adults to describe one of their fondest memories of school, a memory in which a teacher said or did something that enhanced their self-esteem. I was somewhat surprised at first by the theme that appeared most often since it was not one that I expected. Before reading further, pause for a moment. What do you think was the most common positive memory that I received in my survey? The answer was when a student was asked to contribute in some manner to the school environment. The following are several representative responses:
The Mint: Tips For Parents: Allowances: The Issues Does paying for chores teach kids to expect pay for any time they It s a way to teach your child that commitments have to be kept and that people depend http://www.themint.org/parents/theissues.php
Extractions: Home Site Index Search: Ideas for Young Kids Tips for Parents Ideas for Teachers About the Mint ... Perfectcents Newsletter Topics on This Page: When to begin? How much to give? Do you supplement allowances with spending money? When do allowances stop? Here are some thoughts on each of these issues. Use them to discuss how to handle allowances in your family. Every family is different and has to decide for themselves what to do. Some parents begin before ages 6 or 7, as soon as children can recognize the different values of coins. What can a pre-schooler need? Not much. The idea here is to spend some money, save some, and give some to charity. Some parents want to start these habits as early as possible. Others parents wait until grade school - these parents feel that grade schoolers have a better understanding of money and how it can be used. Some experts say dollars should match the child's age: $7 for a 7-year-old. Other experts recommend one dollar for every year of school. Still others say that the amount should be governed by the terms of the allowance. If your teen has to fund clothing purchases, gas, and auto insurance, as well as entertainment and daily miscellaneous purchases, then you have to give an allowance large enough to cover these needs. If you do not give enough money for teens to learn to save some for long-and short-term purchases, spend some money during the month, and perhaps donate some to charity, you are not providing a learning experience. If the allowance isn't generous enough, teens might spend it all because they haven't got enough money to divide among several categories.
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Extractions: Employment Print This Email This Teaching children how to do work around the house may seem like a chore in itself. However, the rewards are great: you get the help and your child learns to take pleasure and pride in being a competent, contributing member of the family. Or, at least that's the goal! Habit Forming: Having one or more daily chores helps children develop a lifetime habit of caring for themselves and others. It's also easier to remember chores when they're part of a daily routine. A Family Affair: Doing chores as a family can be fun. Pick a weekend morning, put it on the calendar, and see how much can be accomplished when everyone pitches in. Treating the crew to pizza for lunch is a great reward and incentive.
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